Communication is something I can constantly be working on. I am going to get a little person here and talk about some things I can improve with my communication and hopefully that makes you think of some things you can improve on as well. I have a big problem when it comes to communication because I also like to assume I know what someone is thinking about the situation, feeling or meaning. This has effected a lot of my relationships with family and friends. IF you happen to find yourself tending to be like me, I would like to challenge you to not jump to conclusion. One goal that I am going to set for myself as I try to change this is to ask the person what they are feeling/thinking instead of assuming.
There is one important thing I would like to talk about that struck me during this discussion was a quote my teacher said, "Everyone has problems, what is important is the way we talk about them and handle them." I couldn't agree more with this statement. Everyone has problems of course and as hard as it may be for people its important to talk about them and make sure we come up with appropriate solutions. This is just a little thought I would like you all to think about.
Counseling is the next thing I would like to talk about. We discussed in class the way that our leaders of the church counsel. I am sure most Mormons already know this, but for those of you who don't know our leaders meet in the LDS Temple every Thursday morning to counsel about things happening. They have a very profound order of the way they do things, first they begin with sharing things they love and appreciate about each other, they then pray to open the meeting for the spirit to be with them, then they discuss the topics that need to be talked about in order of seniority, they close with a prayer and end with refreshments. Of course I could go into more detail and talk about the importance of each of these but instead I would like to focus on something else.
Growing up we always held a family counsel on Sunday Evenings. Our counsels were not this structured and we didn't do all these different things but I would like to implement them into my future family. In my family growing up we would go through the activities for the week and see what each person would be doing. We would then talk about anything that someone was having a hard time with or just wanted to talk about. They would usually be very sweet and short and to the point. Although these aren't perfect I would say the idea of the concept that my parents were instilling in us is great.
My Perfect Family Counsel I want to go a little something like this:
- Start with sharing good news of someone else in the family that week (ex: if someone did great on a test or if someone won their basketball game.)
- Then open with prayer
- After that I would have someone take turns reading the family calendar off so we could see what we have going on that week or 2 weeks or whatever.
- Then we would have a time for anyone to bring up any issues that have been going on or any questions that they may have that effect the whole family (if they are personal I will make sure my kids know they can ask their parents after the counsel is over and we can discuss in private)
- Then we would have refreshments and close the meeting
This is something I would like to start with my husband now so that we get into the habit of it when we have kids. Do any of you have family counsel traditions that you have liked or disliked? I would love to hear any comments!
Thanks for reading guys & have a great day!
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