Lets talk about Sex....

Awkward... I just used the S word in my title. I know, I know. But this week in class our topic was sexual intimacy in the family. This is a huge topic within marriage and I know it is not discussed very often in Mormon culture so I would like to talk about that a little.
One of the most interesting things about getting engaged and then getting married in the Mormon culture is that our entire lives we are told that sex it bad and that it is dirty. This is how myself and a lot of others view these lessons and talks that we all heard growing up. Then one day suddenly it all becomes good and encouraged to do with your spouse. This can be confusing for many people and I can't help but want to change this experience for young adults who first get married.  I would just like to suggest that maybe as we prepare to have children and teach them about sex we let them know how special and sacred sexual intimacy is between a husband and wife lawfully wedded.
Which leads me to the next thing I would like to talk about, teaching our children about sex. When I think about this and how important this is as a parent I get very nervous because I know how big of a deal parenting will be. It will be the biggest, most greatest thing I will ever do in my life. I thought about some things I hope my children will know as they grow up, I will share some with you.

1. From a young age throughout the whole entire childhood I want them to know that their parents love each other. 
2. I want them to understand that their bodies are special and sacred gifts from a Heavenly Father that loves us so much. (This would entail that I would never want them to expose their bodies in inappropriate ways and also that they should take good care of their bodies.)
3. I want my kids to know if anything every happens to them regarding their bodies that it is okay to talk about me about it, and they should never feel embarrassed. (I also want them to know in that area nothing is ever their fault.)
4. I want my kids to know they can come to me or my husband with any questions they may have regarding sex and their bodies. 
5. I want to have an open relationship with my children about their relationships with other people, my husband and I want to help them avoid heart ache and mistakes we have experienced and witnessed. 
6. I want my children to know sex is a beautiful thing when practiced with someone you really love within the bonds of marriage. (I want them to know that even though the world does not view it this way, our family does view it as the most special form of love.

These are just a few things I want my family to understand. In this world with so many things going on around us I know that it is going to be hard to continue to defend the sacredness of sexual intimacy within marriage. I can't even imagine the type of world that my children are going to grow up in but I pray that I will be able to teach them correct principles. 

I know that the world may not have the same views as sexual intimacy within marriage as I do, but I believe that when exercised properly it is the most incredible sign of love. It has brought me and my husband closer than I ever thought possible and has shown me what real love is. I am grateful I have a loving Heavenly Father who trusts us to use this small portion of His divine power.

Keep on spreading the love, and have a great day!