Alright so you can probably already guess that as a newlywed this is my favorite topic. Mostly because this is a huge new part of my life right now and I am definitely a big fan of marriage. Everyone should get married! So obviously with marriage it is important to pick the right person for you, remember you have to learn to live with this person, share with this person and you usually have to clean up after this person so it is important to make sure you actually love them.
I am going to talk about a few marital adjustments that occur between couples within the first few months. (Then I am going to share my input or experience on these situations as well.)
The first one I would say is a set routine and set roles. At least when I got married I wasn't used to living a boy and I had to get used to his schedule and the ways it differed from mine. Along with that we had to determine what our roles in this new relationship would be. It is different from dating because now we have laundry, all the meal prep, cleaning toilets and managing finances together. This was something sort of just fell into place for my husband and I. We work very well together as a team and so he is always good to help me with any given task if he sees me doing something. That is one thing I would suggest you look for in a partner, someone that can be a great teammate to you.
Another big adjustment for many marriages within the first few months is sleeping arrangements. This was actually a pretty big deal for my husband and I. We were both never used to sleeping with someone else and my husband was definitely used to having the entire bed to himself. My husband likes it nice and cold when he sleeps, I like to be snuggled and warm. My husband takes all the covers and wraps himself into a cocoon, I like all the sheets to stay tucked in while I sleep nice and neat. I have to make the bed in the mornings, my husband likes to ball up all the sheets on the bed. As you can see we had some pretty big differences, this made for some interesting first few nights. I will admit the first month I barely got any sleep but it was with this sleeping arrangement problem that I think I learned my first thing about marriage. It is all about compromise. I gave up sleeping with the sheets perfectly tucked in so that he could be comfy. He is usually good to help me make the bed in the mornings. We also have it cold for a little bit at the first of the night and then he shuts the cool air off when I have had enough. Compromise people.
Alright the last thing I am going to talk about is how to split family time. This is a very big one in my marriage at times. It is very hard to split family time 50/50 when we leave 2 hours from my family and 14 hours from my husbands family. This has put us in an interesting position because we don't want to make either families feel bad. Whenever making a decision about who's family to see for what holiday or what weekend we try to keep in mind what is best for our family, as in my husband and I. This is the best piece of advise I have to anyone who may be struggling with this problem in their marriage.
Marriage is the most bliss I have ever experienced. It brings me so much joy to know I am with my best friend for forever if we do what is right and keep the commandments. It also has brought me challenges but I am grateful for those challenges and the things they teach me. Marriage has helped me to grow in ways I didn't know I even needed to grow, it has taught me to forget myself and serve others and my husband and most importantly it has taught me to fiercely love and defend my family.
So there you have it, marriage is the best. Everyone needs to get married when the time is right for them. I truly believe if everyone tried their very best in marriage without the option of giving up, our world would be a wonderful place.
Have a great day!
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